Sexy costumes are a wonderful way to add some zing to your sex life. Many women, though, are hesitant to indulge in them and men are even less likely to make the purchase as a gift for the bedroom. Why? There are several reasons that people are reluctant to try out sexy costumes, fear of feeling silly, fear of being laughed at and fear of being outright rejected because of desiring to indulge our fantasies.
So what to do? First of all, bring up the subject of sexy costumes with your partner. Knowing a bit about how he or she feels about an exotic bustier or a French maid outfit goes a long way toward conquering fears. You will probably be delighted to learn that your lover has some fantasies of his or her own that could be fulfilled by wearing costumes. After all, we’re all human, and we all have fantasies.
Discussion is a great way to go to the next step of suggesting giving sexy costumes a try. Unless your partner has totally rejected the idea (and if he or she has, remember that your partner is rejecting the notion of sexy costumes, not you), ask if your partner would like to buy some to give the idea a whirl. Since you already know that your partner is interested or curious about that strapless bustier or some sexy costumes, you can be sure that you’ll get a yes.
Now where do you go? A great way of shopping for sexy costumes would be for both of you to slip into robes, open a bottle of wine and go online. One quick search will provide you with a tremendous number of sources for sexy costumes. Browsing through sexy costumes will help relieve any lingering anxieties either of you may have about using costumes to add some spice to your bedroom activities. There are so many choices that you’ll see how common dressing in sexy costumes is, and playing out your fantasies will seem like a pretty normal thing to do.
Doing your browsing and shopping together also helps you talk about your fantasies. This is a great way to learn more about your partner and what turns him or her on. Who knew he had a thing for nurses? Who knew she had a thing for pirates? You may find out you both have the same fantasy, which is wonderful. The more you know about your partner, the better you can please him or her.
Maybe you can start with sexy costumes for a shared fantasy, then later move on to taking turns trying different costumes so that each of you have a chance to live out your fantasies, because that’s what sexy costumes are designed to do – help you indulge your erotic side. With the right partner and the right costumes, who knows what might happen – and isn’t that part of the thrill?
